tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4446413714704376496.post4703066999701180672..comments2024-03-27T17:41:44.339-07:00Comments on A Working Title For a Busy Mom: WorryTheresahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12631590002955012588noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4446413714704376496.post-9004692050393035602011-02-11T21:27:51.713-07:002011-02-11T21:27:51.713-07:00I had to wait a long time too and coming after a l...I had to wait a long time too and coming after a loss I definitely had a certain level of background worry. Every time I heard the heartbeat or had a good ultrasound and later every kick and movement made life so much better. I honestly didn't care if A was kicking me in the stomach 2 minutes after I ate a big meal because it meant that she was okay in there (though I would complain for the sake of complaining). As I said, some worry is normal, healthy and even helpful. This pregnancy I know more than I did about what is and is not normal than I did with A, which is really nice, but that doesn't stop the worry totally. What bothers me is the idea that pregnant women are somehow supposed to worry about everything. That everything could be harmful. The saddest thing is to see the threads about women worrying that they will harm their unborn child because they are worrying too much...Pregnancy is a magical time that you get to share with your baby, it saddens me that the worry is dimming that joy for so many. It also reminds me of how worried I was of getting it "wrong" when A was little. I had no clue what I was doing and all the "experts" tended to just give warnings of what not to do and many of these warnings conflicted. Thank goodness for the midwives and nurses I dealt with when A. was born, for Centering and for Mom/Baby which gave me the help and courage I needed to be a good mom. Now, looking back, the mentality that leads to this makes me sad. Why can't we tell women that they should be healthy and ask their doctor/midwife if they are worried about something? Why can't we trust our moms, grandmothers, aunts, sisters and friends to help us learn to parent?Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12631590002955012588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4446413714704376496.post-21442250064955828502011-02-11T18:17:32.491-07:002011-02-11T18:17:32.491-07:00You mentioned toddlers, so I guess this isn't ...You mentioned toddlers, so I guess this isn't all first time mamas, but I know that when I was pregnant with Cecilia, I worried about everything. I was so worried about something going wrong. I had been waiting a long, tong time to have a baby and I was just scared to jeopardize her in any way.Aimeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07566955590534664065noreply@blogger.com